Arons & Solomon | November 6, 2016 | Articles
When it comes to divorce, things can get tough for both your children and spouse. In fact, a divorce can have one of the biggest negative impacts on your child’s life and well being. While you can’t completely control the negative impact a divorce will have on your child, you certainly can reduce the impact. In this article, we will be going over a few crucial techniques that will make your child’s life easier during a divorce.
Keeping Yourself Together Around The Children
Through the eyes of a child, the worst possible thing that can be seen is grieving parents. When you are around your children, grieving shows that everything’s not okay. You want your child to think that both you and your spouse are handling the divorce well.
While you don’t have to pretend that things are “normal,” it’s important not to show frustration or depression around your child. This will give him or her confidence and assurance that the world as he/she knows it is not crumbling around him. If you must grieve, scream or yell, do it alone where your child can’t see or hear you.
Let Life Live On
The best way to minimize the impact on your child is to continue his or her routine as much as possible to what it was before the divorce proceeding began. Let your child hang out with his or her friends. Let your child do his or her favorite activities, even if it involves your spouse. Try to ease your child into any major changes that the divorce causes.
Be Active in Their Life
Even if you aren’t getting along with your spouse, there’s no reason to not be a part of your child’s life. Try to eat dinners with your child. Take him or her shopping. Don’t reduce the amount of involvement in the child’s life just because the divorce has you down.
Being involved in your child’s life is another way to reduce the shock caused by a divorce. Be an active part of his or her life even if it involves interacting with your spouse.