Arons & Solomon | April 12, 2022 | Divorce
Allow Your Emotions to Run Their Course
Whether contested or uncontested, divorces are emotionally tough on everyone involved. There is no way that you could have predicted a divorce when you said “I do” on your wedding day. Couples going through a divorce usually experience a whirlwind of emotions. These emotions are similar to the five stages of grief:
It makes sense that people going through a divorce experience emotions similar to the five stages of grief because they are losing something important and grieving that loss. It is important to remember that these emotions will come to an end. Once you work through all of the emotions, you will be more emotionally capable of making your way through the divorce proceedings.
Trying to push through the divorce process before fully experiencing all of your emotions, whatever emotions you may have, will make the divorce more difficult. Trying to deal with the emotions associated with a divorce before you are ready to do so will only cause stronger emotions. This might cause an inability to understand the process and see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Rather, you will be blinded by your emotions.
If you are having difficulty dealing with your emotions, you may want to speak with a counselor or therapist. Someone with experience managing the emotional issues associated with divorces can help you constructively get through your emotions to face your divorce head-on.
Get an Attorney
Divorces are complicated. Divorce law is its own area of law, and divorces usually have multiple issues like dividing property, alimony, and child custody, to name a few. It is important to have someone that can help you manage all of this complexity. It is important to also remember that in addition to having to deal with your divorce, you also have to deal with your everyday life.
Bills, work, kids, and everything else will only become more overwhelming when you deal with divorce. Getting an experienced divorce attorney will take the mental load off the divorce and shift it to someone working on getting the best outcome possible.
Keep a Level Head When Dividing Property
Many married couples do not have complicated estates that require prenuptial agreements. As a result, most of the property the married couple accumulated throughout the marriage is going to be equally divided in the divorce. Therefore, you should prepare for the fact that you are going to get some things and your soon-to-be former spouse is going to get other things. That is just how the divorce process works.
Even with that being the case, it is okay for you to make it known that you want certain property. It is one thing to stand up for yourself and to make sure that you are getting an equal share of the property in the divorce. However, it is another thing to make things more difficult because you are upset or hurt. Don’t just fight just to fight. Instead, focus on the things you want and what is fair.
It is also important that while a divorce attorney is great, they are not free. So, getting vindictive during the division of property is going to make the divorce process more complicated and drawn out, which is going to cost you money.
The Children’s Best Interest is the Most Important Thing
Many people going through a divorce think that they are losing their children or that it is unfair that they will spend less time with the children after the divorce. While divorce and child custody issues are tough on parents, they are just as tough on the children. Children should never be used as pawns or as pieces to the divorce. Instead, it is important to try to understand their feelings and work with them and your spouse to figure out options that will work best for the children.
Use These Tactics to Help Your Divorce Process Smoothly
These proven strategies are intended to help you make it through your divorce as painlessly as possible. Of course, nobody expects to find themselves in such a position when they are married. But these things happen and are understandable. It’s important to utilize these tactics and to remember that you need not endure your divorce proceedings alone.
Contact the Bergen County Family and Divorce Law Firm of Arons & Solomon Divorce Lawyers for more help
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