Life after divorce is an adjustment for everyone involved. It’s important to remember that your kids should be priority number one. Focus on helping your children through the divorce instead of holding onto your anger and resentment. One major way to help your children is by having a positive relationship with your ex.

Co-parenting amicably with your ex is the best option for your children. It allows children to feel secure and have a healthy example to follow. Your children will also benefit from consistency between households and have a better understanding of problem solving. Although it might be hard, try your best to work past the issues you have with your ex. After all, they will be in your life for a very long time. Remember that you should be putting your children’s needs above your own and the following tips will be easier to accomplish.

  1. Set hurt & anger aside. Let your children be the motivating factor to have a positive relationship with your ex. Vent your feelings to friends or a therapist. Keep your children’s best interest at heart to calm you down. Utilize meditation tactics to calm down when you start feeling angry with your ex in front of your children.
  2. Do not put your children in the middle. You should not use your kids as a messenger or have them involved with your arguments. Do not talk badly about your ex in front of your children as this leads to them feeling bad about themselves. After all, they are half you and half your ex.
  3. Use a business tone. Think of communicating with your ex as a business relationship. Perhaps, this will make it easier to keep your cool. Communicate with respect. Figure out the best method for communicating and stick to it. Keep all conversations focused on your children and their best interests.

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