Arons & Solomon | December 10, 2020 | Divorce
Have you considered divorcing your spouse? If so, your spouse may have also considered a divorce too. A marriage can be challenging to maintain, and it is common for one or both spouses to consider divorce at least once during a marriage.
Couples divorce for many reasons. Many times the individuals realize they simply are not in love with each other any longer. Some couples might drift apart, or one spouse may have problems that cause the marriage to break apart.
If you have thought about filing for divorce or separation, you might wonder if it is time for a divorce. Below are common signs that could indicate divorce is in your future.
Seven Indications it Might Be Time for a Divorce
There are many signs that you and your spouse might be headed for divorce court. Seven common signs a marriage could be in trouble are:
Your Partner Has Been Unfaithful
Infidelity in a relationship can be challenging to overcome. Some spouses can seek counseling or therapy to work through the issues that might have led to the infidelity to repair their relationship. However, affairs or “cheating” is one of the common reasons couples divorce.
If your spouse cheats on you, it might be time to consider a divorce. New Jersey recognizes irreconcilable differences and separation as grounds for divorce. You can also seek a divorce for fault on the grounds of adultery.
One of the grounds for divorce in New Jersey is extreme cruelty. Domestic abuse can take many forms, including physical, emotional, verbal, and sexual abuse.
If you are a victim of domestic violence, you can get help by calling the New Jersey Domestic Violence Hotline or by contacting the Office of Domestic Violence Services. You can also contact the National Domestic Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
Ensure that you erase your cell phone history and internet history if you use them to contact a helpline or search for a family law attorney. Your partner could become violent if they discover you are seeking help. If you fear for your safety or your children’s safety, you can also call 911 for immediate help.
Refusal to Seek Help to Resolve Issues
Couples experience issues and situations throughout the marriage that can cause problems with the relationship. Generally, the couple works together to resolve the issue. However, a situation or issue may arise that the couple cannot resolve on their own.
Having a counselor, therapist, or mediator work with a couple to resolve issues can strengthen the relationship. A third party provides a buffer as the couple discusses their problems. A licensed professional can also provide suggestions and devise a therapy plan to help the couple resolve issues.
When a spouse refuses to seek counseling and the issues are never resolved, it could be time to consider a divorce.
Unable to Trust a Partner
Infidelity is a common reason that a spouse may not be able to trust their partner. However, many reasons could cause a spouse to lose trust. Substance abuse, financial problems, and other issues can result in a lack of respect and trust.
Whenever there is a lack of trust and respect, it can be difficult to agree on decisions regarding children, careers, living situations, and day-to-day activities and needs.
Lack of Communication
Effective communication is a cornerstone of a healthy relationship. When partners cannot communicate, they cannot work out disagreements and problems. Small issues can turn into larger problems.
Counseling could help. However, if a spouse is unwilling to admit there is a problem or go through couples therapy, a divorce may be the best option.
Lack of Intimacy or Emotional Engagement
Intimacy may change throughout a marriage. However, it remains an integral part of a relationship. If a partner refuses to be intimate, there could be underlying problems that could result in a divorce.
Emotional engagement is also crucial for a marriage to be satisfying for both spouses. As with a lack of intimacy, a lack of emotional engagement could signify more serious marital problems.
Attention Focused Outside of the Marriage
Spouses have their own interests and hobbies. They have friends and careers. However, when a spouse’s primary focus is on things outside of the marriage, it can harm the relationship.
Focusing on things outside of the marriage could indicate that a spouse is having an affair or is emotionally disengaging from the relationship. A spouse may also focus more attention on things outside of the marriage when the spouse considers a divorce.
Key Takeaways for Spouses
Marriages have ups and downs. Most couples can work through problems. However, there are some problems spouses may not be able to overcome or solve.
If a spouse states there are irreconcilable differences, New Jersey divorce laws permit the spouse to seek a divorce. You might not be able to stop your spouse from getting a divorce. You can protect yourself and your children by seeking legal advice from an experienced family law attorney.