Arons & Solomon | November 1, 2016 | Articles
Divorce when there are children requires you to interact with your ex-spouse on a regular basis to make sure you are on the same page about your children. That process is known as co-parenting or joint parenting. There are a few things you need to know, in order to, have a successful co-parenting relationship:
- Create a parenting plan. Before the divorce, you should sit down with your ex-spouse and create a parenting plan. Things you need to discuss are when will the non-custodial parent enjoy regular parenting time with the children, how to share birthdays and holidays, how long will you wait before introducing a new significant other, and where will your children be picked up on transition days.
- Open Communication. It is very important to keep the lines of communication open when co-parenting. Discuss how you would like to share schedules and information about your children with your ex-spouse. There are a multitude of ways to do so, including texts, emails, and websites.
- Consistent Rules. Sit down with your ex and discuss key values that you want to instill in your children. Children need to follow a routine as it creates a sense of security.
- Children’s needs come first. As co-parents, you both have to follow this key principle: think of the children’s needs first. If your children are old enough, you’ll want their input before making key decisions that affect them. Never put your children in the middle of a dispute with the other parent, and never use the children to communicate with the other parent.
At Arons and Solomon, we understand that co-parenting after a divorce is a transitional process. That is why we help you with custody options and creating a parenting plan. Contact us today to learn more.